Posted in Uncategorized by martinlanzas on March 21, 2010
Martin Lanzas: NLP Practitioner
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I’ve been thinking a lot about using non-congnitive strategies to change limiting patterns of behavior. This info has been hot in my brain lately. I hope you enjoy. Also, please leave a comment.
In the examples above, the problems of the two persons involved were easily defined in term of visible physiological reactions: shaking and blushing. This makes it easier to talk about that to the audience (ex: ‘I have this blushing issue, what you think about blushing?’ etc). Some problem are more diffuse and expressed by patterns of behavior not so easily defined. For instance, insecurity in social situations, like approaching women or dating, may be expressed in a range of ways and at different levels. It may result in weak body language, wrong speech patterns, facial expressions and inappropriate behavior. How do you address all this to the audience – for instance the woman you are trying to communicate with? Another thing: if I start an interaction by pointing out my weaknesses to the other person, is this not going to result in me being placed from the start in the ‘weak’ category?
This exercise is meant as a behavioral exercise NOT a cognitive one. So, if you are nervous when talking to a woman, then tell her that you are nervous and that you might show weak body language, wrong speech patterns, facial expressions, and inappropriate behavior, because of your nerves. i won’t answer the last question, because as I said before, this is a behavioral exercise not a cognitive one.
Haha, i can relate to Julie! Im sorry i didnt know you before ) I found my technique, similar to this, when i felt ohh shit im blushed again, i said it out loud, i know im blushing right now, cant help it and smiled and people reassured me always, so it was totaly positive. And one more thing. A high quality make-up base helps a lot lol
In the examples above, the problems of the two persons involved were easily defined in term of visible physiological reactions: shaking and blushing. This makes it easier to talk about that to the audience (ex: ‘I have this blushing issue, what you think about blushing?’ etc). Some problem are more diffuse and expressed by patterns of behavior not so easily defined. For instance, insecurity in social situations, like approaching women or dating, may be expressed in a range of ways and at different levels. It may result in weak body language, wrong speech patterns, facial expressions and inappropriate behavior. How do you address all this to the audience – for instance the woman you are trying to communicate with? Another thing: if I start an interaction by pointing out my weaknesses to the other person, is this not going to result in me being placed from the start in the ‘weak’ category?
This exercise is meant as a behavioral exercise NOT a cognitive one. So, if you are nervous when talking to a woman, then tell her that you are nervous and that you might show weak body language, wrong speech patterns, facial expressions, and inappropriate behavior, because of your nerves. i won’t answer the last question, because as I said before, this is a behavioral exercise not a cognitive one.
Haha, i can relate to Julie! Im sorry i didnt know you before
) I found my technique, similar to this, when i felt ohh shit im blushed again, i said it out loud, i know im blushing right now, cant help it and smiled and people reassured me always, so it was totaly positive. And one more thing. A high quality make-up base helps a lot lol
ha ha… Thanks for the comment ms Toth